Identify those beliefs that hinder your confidence and how to challenge them
Confidence is about believing in yourself and your abilities. Confidence encourages you to take action: Do something.
Conversely, a lack of confidence does the opposite: It discourages you from taking action. A lack of confidence is often based on a fear of failure. That fear of failure could result from a specific situation or a combination of many situations. A fear of failure can arise from what others may have done or said to you at any point in your life.
And, the more you focus on the fear, the more your confidence erodes: Fear paralyzes you from being your true self and hinders you from achieving your goals. Today’s lesson is about identifying those beliefs that decrease your confidence and learning how to challenge those beliefs. Let’s get started:
Why do your beliefs matter?
Your beliefs matter because what you say, the way you say and do things and your consistency in doing those things is a result of your beliefs. Your perception of the world is based on what you believe; it is the world according to how you view yourself and others. And it’s those beliefs that influence the decisions you make. Your decisions impact your actions. Your actions create results. When you perform the same actions over a period of time, habits are formed and it moves you closer to your destiny. If you want to change your destiny, you must shift your beliefs.
Identifying the beliefs that hinder your confidence
Beliefs are like an onion and consist of many layers. During this exercise, we will begin to peel each layer to get to your core belief. I want you to focus on one specific area where you lack confidence. I will ask you a series of questions, and as you answer them, it will get us closer to the core belief that is hindering your confidence. I have included a template you can download to write your answers. If you have more than one area where you lack confidence, follow the same process and tackle each at a time. These beliefs did not happen overnight, so please remember to take your time. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. You can access it here. Let’s begin:
- What area do you lack confidence?
- Why do you lack confidence in that area?
- Referring to why you lack confidence, What if the opposite was true? How would that change your confidence?
- What pain does that belief protect you from? If the opposite were true, would that be more painful in some ways?
- What if your belief didn’t stop you?
- What situation(s) do you feel confident? Why is that situation different than the area you lack confidence? Can you apply what you do to be confident to the area where you lack confidence?
- What are you capable in the area you lack confidence?
- What are you incapable of in the area you lack confidence?
- Refer to your response to question 8. Does that keep you from being confident? If so, what do you need to become capable? If not, go to the next question.
- What do you deserve in the area you lack confidence? What do you not deserve in that area? (Example: Let’s say you lack confidence in speaking in front of others and you say you lack confidence because you are not trained. You could say “I deserve to get training in that area and you do not deserve to allow a lack of training to stop you from speaking in front of others”.)
- Review your response to question 9. What actions can you take right now to overcome your beliefs in that area? Write the details down along with today’s date.
The best way to overcome a lack of confidence is to take action. Now that you are aware of the beliefs that are holding you back, perform the actions you mentioned in your response in question 11. Assign a date to complete each action.
Now let’s review your answers. Do you see your core belief that’s holding you back (Hint: Refer to question 4 )? Will you take the actions to overcome that faulty belief?
This Completes Our Mini-Course
This was the last lesson of the course. Our objectives of this mini-course was to:
- Identify your image blunders and correct them;
- Become aware of how others may perceive your image; and
- Identify and challenge the thoughts that prevent you from feeling confident.
What do you think?
We hope that you enjoyed the course and you found it helpful in improving your how you see yourself and how others see you. How has this mini-course helped you? How can this course be improved? Are there other topics you would like us to address? Please let us know. We would love to hear from you. Please comment below.
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