Don’t Be A Hostage: How to Overcome Your Fear


“Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark, professionals built the Titanic.”  Unknown

Are You A Hostage to Fear?

The kind of fear doesn’t matter; whether it’s fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection or fear of success (yes-there are those that are afraid to succeed; I’ll save that topic for another time); its paralyzing.  Fear can stop you in your tracks.The good news is that you don’t have to allow fear to stop you.
Overcome Fear

Move past your fear and toward achieving your success!

Here are my success steps that I’ve taken to overcome my fear:

1.  Identify the fear.

Where is this coming from?  What exactly am I afraid of?

2. Dissect the fear

Consider all the outcomes.  On a sheet of paper, write at the top of the paper ,  “name of the fear:  Outcomes”. Draw a vertical line to make two columns.  On one side, write “bad outcome – Threat” and the other write “good outcome – Advantages”.   List all possible outcomes according to each side.  This will help you consider all the consequences of the issue at hand.   It may also show that the advantages outweigh the threat.  But let’s take it a step further.

3. Challenge Your Threats.

What is the worst thing that can happen if the bad outcome occurred?   Is it really as bad as it looks?  What would you do if it did happen?   Let’s take control of the situation by creating a plan of action if the bad outcome occurred.   Can you see how you can take control of the unknown by taking a proactive approach?

4. Adopt a Song as your Motivational Theme

TIP:  Align Your Purpose

Every year I adopt a song to become my motivation theme to propel me into action.  Currently, my theme song is Katy Perry’s Roar.  Last year it was Mary, Mary’s “Go Get It”.   I play it every morning and whenever I feel particularly challenged.  The jolt of energy gets me going.   For you it may be a quote, phrase, poem, etc.  Use it to keep you motivated.

5. Take Action

Now that you have considered all the outcomes and was proactive and created a plan of action for the risks, the only thing left is to just go for it.   You’ve removed the power of fear and gave yourself permission to go for it.

Important:  You may take small steps to gain confidence or you may just go full straddle.  However you decide to get going, what’s important is action – Do Something.

Note: Don’t be surprised if you still the emotional side of fear (it’s a part of our natural built-in defense mechanism).  The difference is now you know that whatever happens, you can handle it.

What goals have you not pursued due to fear?